In the real world, there’s no such thing as love potions or magic spells. What this means is that, simply put, there are no such things as shortcuts or loopholes when it comes to charming the ladies. Women are not at all entirely shallow; being charming is not at all just about having good looks or having a high social status. In order to garner their attention organically, one must be able to show them what they are truly made of.
Charming a woman’s attention is not like availing an escort’s services; charm is something to be earned, and not something that money can buy. If you want to appear as quite the charmer to these fine ladies, you must possess desirable traits that make you look more social, approachable, and pleasant to be around with. Here’s some tips you should follow if you want to be a chick magnet in the near future.
Show You’re a Good Conversationalist
If you want women to get interested in you, you have to let them know what kind of person you are. Don’t just idle around, mulling about a good icebreaker. Be open to casual conversation and make sure you’re fun to talk to. Asking about the weather is such an overplayed trope, and can kill the mood before it has even started. Instead, make an observation of the people around and start a conversation based on that. You’ll get better results when both parties are invested in talking to one another.
During the conversation, do your best to listen to her words, and make sure she sees that. Maintain eye contact whenever you can, don’t interrupt her when talking, then share your own thoughts after. You won’t believe how being good at conversations can make you look more savvy and trustworthy – two traits that can be charming for most people.
Get to Know Everyone’s Names
This one is simple yet most people fail to follow it. During a party, it can be a daunting ordeal, getting to meet and know other people. But by knowing other people’s names, you get to these other people’s graces, and they may find you social, approachable and open for conversation. When you remember someone’s name, they may feel included and validated. People are fond of those who are capable of showing them respect, and may feel allured by their innate charms. Who knows, perhaps someone – say, a woman – will come up to you and wish to have some small talk, perhaps over drinks?
Lastly, just be yourself. People aren’t daft – they’d know if you’re faking your persona. It’ll just make you look disingenuous and untrustworthy, which you do not want to be seen as. Instead, just be yourself; don’t be afraid to make small blunders or mistakes. Talk about yourself with immense pride, and remember to always put up a smile. No need to pretend to be perfect; women find those who admit to be vulnerable in a confident manner endearing and charming.
Being charming is all about how you present yourself, not in a physical manner, but rather in a social kind of way. Being genuine and sociable can be charming enough for most women. So don’t feel the need to be perfect. Just be who you are, and the ladies are bound to notice you for it.